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Name: gms   Title: relocation of children

I wanted to get some feedback about relocation with my children. I have custody of the children, with my ex husband seeing them every other weekend, and one day during the week. I currently reside in Missouri, but plan to remarry a man living in Iowa. What kind of court battle am I really up against? I have done a lot of online research, and obtained general information such as; it depends on what is in the best interest of the children...etc. I know those basic facts, but couldn't really find any actual court cases to review. I know my ex will oppose the move. I am trying to get feedback from someone who knows a lot about this, or has been through it, to give me some advice. I am in a position now where I am not sure it is worth going through a nasty court battle if I am going to lose. In other words, what are my chances of the judge granting relocation? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

Name: relocatingtoo New Member

Dear GMS... I hope that you log back on and see my support for you and the fight that you are up against. I have been fighting this for 5 months now and won't know until the first of the year what the judge has to rule. I am so prayerful that she rules in my favor - I have lots of things in my corner that help - but still it all depends how she is feeling that day. Please know that I am rooting for you... I am so happy to see that there is more than just me out there fighting this fight. I pray you win!

Name: brettlee New Member

I understand your problem.You dont want to live with your exhusband.And you are interested to relocate your children and remarry other person.Hope the court case will be in your favour and you get the custody of your children.
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Name: singlemommedtodeath New Member

unless your ex is a dispicable human being why would you want to remove your children from him?

Name: brettlee New Member

I hope case will be in your favour.You must have faced a lot of problems with your ex husband,and so you were divorced.If you are divorced,then according to law,you can marry the other person.Because living with a person who do not understand your feelings is waste.And a woman also has a right to look after her children.Even she also has an equal right.So i hope court case shall be in your favour.
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Name: brettlee New Member

I hope case will be in your favour. You must have faced a lot of problems with your ex husband,and so you were divorced. If you are divorced,then according to law,you can marry the other person.Because living with a person who do not understand your feelings is waste.And a woman also has a right to look after her children. Even she also has an equal right.So i hope court case shall be in your favour.
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Name: brettlee New Member

I hope case will be in your favour.You must have faced a lot of problems with your ex husband,and so you were divorced.If you are divorced,then according to law ,you can marry the other person.Because living with a person who do not understand your feelings is waste.And a woman also has a right to look after her children.Even she also have a equal right.
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Name: kim New Member

I agree that the children should see both parents and yes it is in thier best interest, but should the missouri courts stop our right of freedom and making decesions for our family. the answer is no. both parents should have the same right to relocate read the ok, or ny, ca reasoning now that makes sense they do not drain your pocket book they give both parties equal rights to relocate and do not hold the custodial parent to different rights. If your thinking of moving to missouri dont! The more the courts get in to our homes the more rights we loose. my husband and I both agree if we ever got divorced we would never be that stupied. we did for a short period seperate several years ago and quess what when emotions were high we still worked it out and stood our ground with no courts. maybe if people would come together refuse to use family court in missouri than they would be forsed to not welcome petty fights and take all the money they can from families. missouri needs to say no and grant equal rights on relocating it is not fair!

Name: kim New Member

What is wrong with these replies. I feel it is so backwards and yesterday to think that a woman should not have the right to move her children. (providing she has custody) we work, and remarry and it is our job to provide the best life for our children because after all they live with one parent. I am not saying children should not spend time with the other parent, but keep in mind quality time and quanity are to seperate things. keep the courts out . they take lots of money from people and play on emotions.Then you both walk away with what common sense could have figured out in no time. we are a mobile society it is not like it use to be and missouri courts need to get on board like some of the other states california, ok,and NY where it has to be proven by the non custodial parent that the move will cause danger. some courts know that the primary caregiver should not loose freedom rights and have the same freedom rights as the father who can move at any time.my advice stay as far away from missouri as possible they are not on board , the court systems are so backed up they will be lucky to remember your case after a year. you might even find things in your order that does not apply to what you are asking. I am waiting for this law to change so I can be with my sick mother whom might die before I get out of missouri . my x has the option and probably will move some day and will have to answer to no one, just hopefully before my mother has something happen to her. thanks missouri courts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Name: jakemeister1 New Member

Most research that I read leads me to believe that most children do better with an intact family with their two biological parents. The main exceptions are abuse, addiction, infidelity. Why are children expected to adjust to and like whoever their parents choose to bring into their house?
I am in agreement with madalex that parents are primarily responsible for what ever situation they put themselves and their famiy in. Ask you children what they want you and their father to do. It may not be the course of action you seem to want to take.

Name: dedicateddad New Member

For the sake of the Children, unless he's abusive, Please don't move away and add more separation of child and parent.
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Name: madalex Member

chitownmom2 -

No one is forcing mon to stay in one state or preventing mom from moving. She can move whenever she wants. She just can't nevessarily take the kids with her. The kids do not "belong" to her, so she can't make the unilateral decision to move them.

By the way, the courts do not put parents in this position: the parents put themselves in this decision when they decide to have children, then get divorced, then decide to move somewhere else to pursue their own individual agendas without any thought to what it will do to the children.

In this situation, mom wants to move to be with her new husband. That is her decision. Why should she get to impose that decision on dad and the kids, simply because she wants to pursue her own agenda?

Name: chitownmom2

I think its crazy that someone would actually tell you to leave your kids with their dad and move. What a bunch of crock madalex. I feel your pain. I think its insane that the courts put parents in a position like this. Forcing a parent to stay in one state is like giving all the power to the ex. They are non custodial parents for a reason. You have an uphill battle. There are tons of legal websites to look up court cases you just have to have the time to really look.

Name: madalex Member

It will be a nsaty court battle and even if you win, you may be required to pay all the costs of having your children travel to visit their father.

Keep in mind that you can always move; it's just that you can't take the kids away from their father without a court order. So, if it is so important for you to move, just do so and let the kids move in with their dad full time.

Name: roxy3

wow i am a mother of 2 and i need some feedback since i want to relocate with my kids too. i have the same problem with my ex with what you are going thru..please help need feedback

Name: ajv

Court battle. The battle is getting to court. I am currently trying to relocate my children and I to Kansas. My new husban had to take a position in Kansas or he would loose his job. It has been 5 months since I filed a motion to relocate and nothing is happening. My x husban will not allow the children to relocate. I am 8 months pregnant living in Colorado with my 3 children waiting for a hearing. It is so hard on every one ! My husban and I have been living apart for about 3 months. I have not gone to court yet, but hope it will be set soon.

Name: cheeps New Member

How far away? We split travel time in half but they were only four hours away. If they have a good relationship in both houses it is not a good idea to have them be to far apart from the dad. It matters how old they are too...how old?cheeps