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Name: billybobca New Member   Title: adultery and support

My spouse cheated on me while I was away on a six month deployment. She was seeing another man for a month and a half, until the day before I came home. We were married in may of 2007 in CA. We still reside in CA and want to know what type of spousal support she'll be entitled to and if adultery is grounds for divorce in california. She spent money on him while I was gone buying him gifts.

Name: LoriSam7879 New Member

I realize this is an old thread, but I wanted to reply....

First off, THANK YOU for serving. Please know that you and all who serve are much respected and appreciated here in this family.

Second, wow. We used to call that a WestPac WIdow.... its sad that this happens. They should be supporting you through this. I am sorry. Personally, I do not think she can ask for alimony. Especially if you can prove to the court that she spent your money that you earned while overseas on this "man". I would definitely list adultery as the reason for divorce, and unless she's been at home as a mom taking care of kids (not working outside the home) she will not likely get it. Be sure to share all you know about her actions, and provide as much proof as you can.
Be safe,
Lori

Name: divorce coach New Member

Madalex is correct.

It's not easy to deal with adultery. It sounds like she stopped seeing that person. You will have to decide whether you are really done with this marriage. It may take a little time to decide that. Certainly, if you are angry, that's not a good time to make decision. Try and deal with the anger , you can start with this: http://guidetodivorce.com/articles
/recovery/divorceanger.htm

Take
time to learn your rights and obligations in the mean time. Do some research on line about the grounds for divorce and procedures. Try this http://www.divorcemag.com/CA/faq/grounds.html.

Name: madalex Member

Adultery is not grounds for divorce in CA (but irreconcilable differences is). For a marriage of such a short duration, she is unlikely to be entitled to any spousal support.